Psycho: the 3 pillars to arm yourself against the excess of emotions
Human beings are social animals: for many of us, current conditions, which are changing our relationship with the world, are therefore generating an overflow of emotions that can be difficult to manage. We met with Camille Warnier, psychologist, to get her tips!
The 3 pillars
From a clinician's perspective , there are three key considerations: making sure we reopen our inner and outer world, but also allowing ourselves to let go . Easier said than done? Not necessarily!
1. Deploy your inner garden
It may sound cliché, but Activities that nourish your inner peace on a daily basis are absolutely essential: they allow you to refocus. This could be a walk in the forest or gardening in mindfulness , yoga , but also creating a diary .
" We are increasingly practicing art therapy ," assures Camille Warnier, "and some methods can be easily reimported at home." Art is indeed a powerful and liberating means of expression: it allows us to release accumulated emotions and thoughts. that clutter the mind. Mandala, drawing, photography, painting, poetry,... You are spoiled for choice!
2. Investigate your external world
Cultivating your well-being is just as much about the relationship you have with your environment. It is therefore a question of returning to the essentials at this level too: a whole local sociability opens up to you! Perhaps you have neighbors, to whom you have never really paid attention and who are just waiting to exchange more with you. (Re)discover the surroundings of your house: why not turn to your local shops ?
Do you have pets ? Give them more time. Petting animals is a gesture whose relaxing virtues are proven. To communicate with people whose distance is unfortunately forced, reconnect with forms of correspondence : relearn how to write to your loved ones for the pleasure of writing.
3. Learn to let go
If you work remotely, or if you take care of the house, do not try to be productive at all costs : there are "good" days and "bad" days. Stubbornly trying to make efforts that you are not capable of at the precise moment will reduce your overall efficiency: prefer to get some fresh air, take a break to better return to the task.
The main thing to avoid feeling guilty when going to bed is to have done your best, knowing that the "best" of one day is not the best of the day before .
The intersections between the pillars
These pillars are not independent and autonomous: if you imagine a Venn diagram, they intersect. Thus, it is a question of both investigating your external world and deploying your inner garden when you strive to make common moments qualitative and meaningful , for example by involving the whole family in the preparation of the meal.
In the same way, agreeing to make a reasoned sorting between the elements on which you have the power to act and those against which you are powerless allows you to both let go and investigate your external world. Indeed, "you cannot fight against government directives, but you can decide what you do with your free time", explains the practitioner.
As for meditation , it is an excellent activity that promotes letting go and maintaining the inner garden at the same time. It is an opportunity to truly "clear your mind". Some applications allow you to learn this practice for free and in a guided manner , which is beneficial at all times.
The central recommendation
Finally, at the crossroads of these three pillars lies the ultimate recommendation : take advantage of our current living conditions to sort between relationships chosen and those suffered . This inevitably requires taking a step back from communication via social networks: " Screens reduce our empathy for each other and increase wear and tear," explains Camille Warnier. So see this strange period as an excellent opportunity to get out of the relationships that hurt you... and maintain those that fulfill you.
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